Blog Series: The 4 Pillars of Emotional Intelligence
- Heidi Dawson
- Jan 21
- 1 min read
#2 SELF-REGULATION: MANAGING YOUR INNER WORLD
Once we’re aware of our emotions, the next step is self-regulation.
This is the ability to manage your emotions in a way that’s constructive, rather than letting them control you.
Why does this matter?
Self-regulation doesn’t mean suppressing emotions or pretending they don’t exist. Instead, Emotional Intelligence is about pausing, understanding what you’re feeling, and choosing how to respond. It’s the difference between reacting in frustration and responding with thoughtfulness.
Horses teach us a lot about self-regulation. When working with them, you quickly learn that they respond best to calm, consistent leadership. If you approach them with frustration or unpredictability, they’ll mirror that energy back to you.
In contrast, when you’re steady and grounded, they feel safe and are more willing to trust you.
Ways to Improve Self-Regulation:
Pause before reacting: Take a breath or count to ten before responding to a stressful situation.
Identify the root of your emotion: What’s really driving your frustration, anger, or sadness?
Develop coping strategies: Exercise, deep breathing, or a walk in nature can help you process emotions constructively.
Self-regulation allows you to stay calm under pressure and respond in ways that align with your values and goals.
What steps can you take today to practice self-regulation?
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